when I am the center and when I am not; when I had a house and when I will not.
in I Lift My Eyes Up, Thoughts and Feelings
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There are a few things looming over me right now.
Though I realize that I am not the only one for whom life is looming.
It is good to remember this; it is good to think about others.
It is confusing, though, for I see a cartoon that reminds me not to kill spiders and for months I do not, careful to carry them outside to safety, cradling them. Or as much as one can cradle something that has eight legs (And yes, I just googled that because I had a moment of indecision. If you had come into my life right then, and in supreme confidence told me that spiders have six legs, I would have believed you, hook, line, and sinker, as the saying goes).
But out of a strong conviction that I am not the center of the universe, and after watching that cartoon, I even start to take showers with spiders. I do this until I wake up one morning with spider bites on my torso. And then I realize that I might not be the center of my universe, but I think that I am at least a little closer to the center than the spiders, and therefore I make the choice to not let them live with me any longer and yes, to even kill them, if that’s what it comes down to.
But then I come across this poem by Buddy Wakefield. It’s called The Information Man and every time I hear it or read it I get chills and time stands still as I feel the part of me that sees even with my eyes closed getting stronger. And this poem assures me that I am the center of my universe. And I think that might be the difference: my and the. As in, none of us are the center of THE universe, collectively.
We all share it.
Together, we make it what it is–and neither of us are more important than each other. But then, well, MY universe. Yes, I am the center of that. Kind of like how you can keep your house the way you want; you arrange your furniture just so and you paint your walls yellow because you heard somewhere that it’s a cheerful color and lately you’ve been feeling a little depressed and anything helps.
But you can’t go around painting the world yellow, cause it’s not just your world.
Okay, glad I figured that out. Sort of, anyway.
But all this to say: life looms.
Specifically, the fact that I am selling my house.
I wish wish wish that I could simply write something about my house. Or sing a song or do a dance about it. This is the kind of stuff I know. But instead, I get an email from my realtor telling me that the documents he received from me were missing both articles 3 & 4 and could I please supply them asap?
And I am left wracking my brain because I have no idea what articles 3 & 4 are.
None.
And so I write him. I tell him to pretend that I never know what he’s talking about and to over-explain things to me. That I will not be offended by him treating me like a child in this matter (because I am).
I know this is good for me; I know I am growing and learning. I know this will not always loom, but it is looming right now.
And also? It does not help to be selling a house with a person who is no longer part of the team. This is not helpful at all.
But I chug along.
I make it work.
I will figure out what articles 3 & 4 are.
And I will continue to learn the difference between my universe and the universe, respectively, and then try to act accordingly.


